connecting with our loved ones on the other side

That’s me & my sweet, silly, talkative, crazy, fun, caring, love bug dad circa 1993. He passed 20 years ago last Wednesday.

But he’s not gone. I feel him all the time and he sends me messages.

Last week he was working overtime letting us know that he’s with us. Especially on Wednesday, the 20th anniversary of his passing.

Every morning I have meditation, contemplation & journaling time. I tune into my spirit guides and ancestors. Wednesday morning I really felt him close. I asked that he stay close and connected that day.

And boy did he!

When I got to my office, the light outside my office was blinking. That’s one of the ways that he communicates with me. He worked for the electric company so that makes sense. I kept trying to get a video of it but every time I walked out of my office with my camera, it stopped! He’s a rascal!

Back up to last Sunday - he started then. I took my mom to IU to visit Ruby. Rubes was touring us around her sorority house and we were in the kitchen area. She was opening drawers to show us snacks and coffee and such.

She opened a cabinet door and right there front & center was a bag of Werther’s candy!

Now if you live in Boone County and know my dad, you know that he always had Werther’s in his pocket to share with people. We had a basket of Werther’s at his funeral! I knew it was a sign from him saying “Hey girls! I’m here!”

Back to Wednesday: I sent my sister a message telling her about the Werther’s earlier in the week. She said – wait til you hear this! YOU GUYS!!!!

Kathy’s father-in-law passed a few weeks ago (RIP Don). A friend of Randy’s sent him a wind chime in the mail to remember his dad. The next day, he got another package in the mail that said it was from her.

It was a bag of Werther’s! He thought it was a little strange but texted her a thanks and she replied: “I have no idea what you’re talking about. I didn’t send you any candy!”

SAY WHAT!!??

Bananaaaaaas!!!

I know it was Dad saying hello and sending Randy comfort.

So on Wednesday I’m texting my niece in Lisbon about these Werther’s antics. She says: WHAT?! You’re not gonna believe this!

“Just yesterday I was thinking that I like candy but I never have it around. And maybe I want to be one of those people who carries candy around and hands it out to their friends. Then I remembered that Papaw did that with Werther’s and I liked that idea and I wrote “Werther’s” on my grocery list!!!”

Bonkers!

But the signs don’t stop there!

On Wednesday I was in yoga class and I set a silent intention to connect with Dad. During the practice, the instructor reminded us “You have everything you need.”

I almost burst out cry-laughing because when I was in the worst part of my 32 hour labor with Ruby, I silently called on Dad for help. He had passed just 8 months earlier.

What I heard him say was “You have everything you need, baby.”

A bit later, the instructor said: “This pose reminds me of a deer bending down to drink from a stream.”

My dad loved deer. There were a lot of deer around where I grew up and he would get SO excited about deer sightings. Every. Single. Time. It never got old for him. He was always on the lookout for them and I have fond memories of him calling me from another room to come look through the binoculars at the deer. AGAIN!

THEN, when I got in the car after yoga, my dash said it was 1:11 and 66 degrees. I consider repeating numbers to be messages from my guides. Hi Dad!

I’m listening to The Telepathy Tapes podcast (MY FAVORITE! OMG!) on the way home and the host, Ky, is talking to the singer Willow Smith about her song “Talk On The Hill”. Willow said her favorite line in her song is “the wind knows all of our names.”

Ky remembered how one of their guests had been told that her father, who was unable to communicate due to Alzheimer’s, telepathically told a man to tell her “I can hear you, you’re in the wind.”

It was a goosebump moment for them…BUT A BIGGER ONE FOR ME!

So the wind…that’s another story and I’ll abbreviate it: Several years ago, during my quiet morning time, on a very windy day, Dad suddenly popped into my awareness and said “Hey baby! I’m in the wind today.” That sounds fun, right?!

Later that day I got in my car and with no reasonable explanation, my phone starts playing a song from iTunes. I hadn’t used iTunes in years. The song was called…wait for it… “In The Wind”!

There were other wind references all day. When I remembered to text my sister later that afternoon, I said “Dad told me he’s in the wind today.” She said: WHAT!? And sent me a photo of her journal page that morning where she got messages from Dad through the wind!

I kid you not.

I know he’s still around. I get signs all the time.

I really miss his human self. I’d love to be enveloped in his big hug, hunt mushrooms with him, work on a house project, scan the fields for deer, ride in the tractor with him singing hymns, laugh our heads off.

But this relationship is cool too.

As Taylor Swift sings in her song Marjorie, about her grandma who has passed:

If I didn't know better
I'd think you were talking to me now.
If I didn't know better
I'd think you were still around.
What died didn't stay dead.
You're alive, so alive.

And if I didn't know better

I'd think you were listening to me now.

I still feel you all around.
I know better.
You're still around.

on the edge of something great

“What do you do when you feel like you’re on the edge of a great expression … only you’re missing too many pieces to actually see what it is.”

I got this email from a client in response to my email about Taylor Swift last week. If you missed it, here’s the blog post. And you should get on my email list!

She said I could share her email because I know it will resonate with so many! Here goes:

“So many people – like Taylor Swift! – seem to have pieced together such a strong and defined path at such a young age.

I feel like I’m piecing together a puzzle that I don’t have the lid to. I don’t know what it’s going to be. I have a bunch of pieces to fit together.

But is it a sunrise? A basket of puppies? Monkeys eating spaghetti? I just can’t figure it out.

And some days I get tired of sorting through pieces and none of them fit together.  

A wise woman would probably say that’s what life is … sorting through pieces and trying to make a nice picture. Well, I guess a wise woman did just say that. LOL.

Most days I can admire the bits that I’ve pieced together and appreciate them.

But other days the cat scrambles across it and I lose a bunch of my work.

I guess that’s life too. Feel the frustration but also love the cat’s companionship even though it messed up your work.

I guess I just really want that lid so I can see what I’m making.

I guess that’s what meditation and visualization and dreaming is for. We can picture the sunrise or the puppies or the monkeys.

But I think I’ve been way off a couple of times in life, visualizing and dreaming one thing but then getting something very very different.”

Isn’t that so well said?! Can you relate? Me too.

THIS is my mission: To sit at the card table with you as we work on the lidless puzzle together. Laughing. Talking. Getting frustrated. Sipping our lemonade. Getting tired of it. Treasuring the process.

Everything I offer is in service to creating clarity for you – my workshops, my retreats, my coaching sessions, my pranic healing sessions.

To know you’re not alone. To know that you’ve done nothing wrong. To remember that we’re all in this together.

If you’d like help with your puzzle, schedule a coaching session and I’ll go get the card table set up!

Childhood Messages

What unconscious childhood message are you living from?

…and is it serving you?

Do you know your Enneagram number? I’m a 7.

The Enneagram personality typing system creates awareness about your thoughts & actions, your motivations, and the fears that drive you…all that stuff is running in the background.

Awareness is the first step to unbinding yourself from your automatic reactions and annoying habits, old stories & patterns.

I have used The Enneagram for 20+ years (thanks Chris Dobbins!) to guide me in very practical ways. I also use it with many of my coaching clients.

Once we have awareness, then we have choice. We’re not just a victim of our personalities. “That’s just the way I am”. Nope. You got programmed that way.

Many years ago my hubs and I signed up for a daily “EnneaThought” email through the Enneagram Institute. We find these SO helpful for personal and relationship growth. They help us see how the other feels and experiences the world.

I also get these emails for my coaching clients to help me better understand them.

Here’s an example for 3 different types:

• Type 6: How is your unconscious childhood message that “It’s not okay to trust yourself” affecting you today?

• Type 7: How is your unconscious childhood message that “It’s not okay to depend on anyone for anything” affecting you today?

• Type 4: How is your unconscious childhood message that “It’s not ok to be too functional or too happy” affecting you today?

This one has been a life-long challenge for me: “It’s not ok to depend on anyone for anything.”

The first thing that popped into my 7 brain when I read this was my dear ole dad teaching fierce independence to my sister and me.

He told us that we don’t need to rely on a man for anything. We are perfectly capable of doing anything we set our minds to. He taught us how to change the oil, drive a tractor, shoot a gun, change a tire, wire a lamp.

There were no boys jobs or girls jobs. We were expected to take out the trash, mow the yard, carry our own luggage.

All of those are AMAZING gifts and messages. I am so very thankful that he raised us to believe in ourselves and our capabilities.

BUT my little kid mind took that valuable message of independence and warped it into: “It’s not okay to depend on anyone for anything”.

I took it WAAAAY too far. That’s what little kid minds have a tendency to do. And then we grow up and we’re still operating from unexamined old stories.

Coaching gives you the opportunity to unearth those old stories and limiting beliefs lurking in your subconscious that are driving the bus.

Once we see them, we can decide to keep what serves – I am a strong, capable woman. And purge what doesn’t – I have to do everything myself.

This is liberating, life changing work.

If you’d like to see how you can use the Enneagram to make different choices & choose different behaviors, schedule a coaching session (in-person or zoom) right there…

 schedule a coaching session 

PS: If you’re googling “Enneagram test” right now, go ahead and take the $20 Enneagram Institute test. Don’t monkey around with others. But even that test, which is the most reliable, is only about 80% reliable. It will give you your number but often you are close to another number and can easily mistype yourself.

I can help you be sure of your #. I thought I was a 2 for years.

Also – don’t focus on the one-word names that are often given to each number to type yourself because those can be misleading. The 2 is often called The Helper – I like to help. But I’m not a 2. The 4 is often called The Artist – so every artistic person thinks they are a 4. The 9 is The Peacemaker – I don’t like conflict. I’m easy-going. I must be a 9. Not necessarily. Get my point?

It’s worth a coaching session or two to get it right and see how to use it in practical ways.

Change is in the air: Autumn Equinox is coming

Besides the fact that Indiana got all confused this week and dished up high 90s with the humidity to match and new mosquitoes the size of crows! URG! It’s time for PANTS and SOCKS already!

Besides THAT…

It’s dark when I wake in the morning and when I go to sleep at night - which I LOVE.

The plants are beginning to look a little ragged.

It feels like the summer frenzy - Go! Do! Quick - squeeze all you can out of summer! - is shifting.

It’s back to school time - Target has all the good notebooks!

The Rivi pool deck mid-day on a Friday is all gray haired leather skinned ladies and 30-something moms gathered in peaceful bliss with mimosas in their Owalas.

This is a good time for a reboot.

Mabon season on The Celtic Wheel starts on September 22 - the Autumn Equinox. We’re winding down the Lughnasa season of harvesting & abundance, gathering & celebrating, and moving into the Mabon season themes of transition, completion, release, and balance.

I can feel my energy starting to make that change.

I’m starting to think about what I need to release. Where do I need balance? What do I want to transition into?

How about you?

Are you feeling a shift? What’s this next season calling for?

Times of transition are a great time to schedule an energy cleanse, or a coach session to get clarity on what you want to move into.

I love this description of this time of year from The Daily Dose email I got:

The light is doing something specific—lower, more golden, casting longer shadows than it did even two weeks ago.

The air carries something that wasn't there in July. A coolness underneath the warmth. A clarity that feels almost physical.

Nature is completing summer.

And being present to that completion—really present—is its own form of medicine.

Big picture: Research in environmental psychology shows that time in nature during seasonal transitions has measurably stronger effects on mood, nervous system regulation, and immune function than time in nature during stable periods.

The transition itself is part of what's therapeutic.

What your body's been noticing, even if you haven't:

Outdoor time feels richer and more restorative than it did mid-summer.

The natural world is offering something specific right now—a quality of presence that indoor environments can't replicate.

Morning air has a clarity that feels nourishing in a way that's hard to articulate but easy to feel.

Something about being outside right now feels important—like something worth witnessing.

Try this:

• Take a slow walk today—not for fitness, for presence.

• Find one thing in nature today that shows you the season is turning.

• Sit in late afternoon light—the angle is extraordinary right now.

• Write one sentence about what nature showed you today.

Here’s to transitions! Happy almost Autumn Equinox! If you’d like support walking through this transition, schedule a coaching session and we’ll talk about it.

Taylor's Magic is yours too!

OMG Taylor Swift. You guys!

If you’re rolling your eyes and your finger is hovering over the scroll pad…wait a minute. Hear me out…

I think you’re gonna like this. And it’s really about YOU.

I just watched her documentary about The Eras Tour on Disney+ “The End of An Era”.

AND I AM SOOOO INSPIRED!!!!! It is phenomenal. 10/10 recommend.

It renewed my obsessed fascination with her, first sparked by her documentary on the making of the Folklore album. Then getting the chance to go to her concert. <<< my view in Cincinnati.

I was blown away by the concert production - of course! I could go on and on about that. And you may have had to suffer hearing me do exactly that ;-).

But that’s not what I’m going to talk about here. Well maybe just for a minute…half a minute.

I have NEVER been in a crowd with so much positivity. It was bonkers. ZERO negativity of any kind. 65,000 people shoulder to shoulder. Temps over 90 and humidity to match. AND NO ONE WAS GRUMPY! Not even MEEEEE. That weather set up is the thing of my nightmares. I can’t do it! But I did. And with joy. Everyone was FULL of joy!

I really wanted to know how that happens.

I don’t think it’s about the music. I’m not a Taylor Swift MUSIC super fan, per se. Although I just checked and my “Taylor - Best Of” playlist on Spotify, with my favorite songs, is 4h 44m (yes angel number!) Ok I guess I like alot of her songs. Mostly since the Folklore album. I digress…

Put the music aside.

Put the concert aside.

Back to The Eras Tour documentary that set me on FIRE:

I wrote an entire journal page about why it inspired me so much. And I want to share because it’s not just about Taylor’s magic. She is a mirror. It’s about OUR magic! But first…

Here are the parts of the doc that inspired me so much:

• She is so ding dang vulnerable - she writes about her lowest lows, her every emotion and embarrassment and failure. And SHARES IT WITH THE WORLD. Without qualifying it. She owns it all. And that is rare. That gives us all permission to be vulnerable in a world of highlight reels.

• She has always followed what she loves. What inspires her. What she’s interested in.

• She is so full of joy and excitement and she lets it bubble up and out of her. She does NOT try to be cool. She is silly and dorky and weird and unapologetically over the top - because that’s who she is!

• She’s also full of lots of tough emotions - and she lets those bubble up and out too. Fearlessly. No…not fearless…WITH fear.

• She’s committed to delighting her fans - what their experience will be like, what she wants them to feel, giving them more than they expect, blowing their mind.

• She’s committed to her crew. She talked about how she imagined her dancers and musicians in vivid detail growing up and following their dreams, despite being advised otherwise. She imagined their failures, their triumphs. She imagined all that went into them all coming together. That’s real heart.

• She owns everything - her failures, her power, her emotions, her stage. She gets messy and fancy and it’s all ok.

• She’s respectful of others. And herself.

• She loves to collaborate.

• She practices mindset work - “This’ll be great.” “Things - even bad - don’t happen TO me. They happen FOR me.”

• She’s a confident leader.

I really admire all of these things.

And I am inspired by her to live more into all these things.

I believe we are all able to - and invited to - create magic like this!

Maybe our stadium is our living room or our kitchen or our office or our business.

Maybe our fans are our family and friends and clients.

Maybe our dancers and backup singers are our girlfriends, our coaches, our co-workers, our book club.

I can do what I love and I can share it. I can also share my sadness.

I can let my joy bubble up and out and not tamp it down so I’m not too much.

So I invite you to join me - how can we all express our own magic?

Man does the world need your magic right now!

It takes courage and intentionality to put all the terrible things going on in the world aside for 3 1/2 hours and stand on that stage and create connection. To be determined to delight people and blow their minds.

How can YOU create connection? How can you delight someone?

Is it making a beautiful and healthy cake for your girlfriend because she says how she loves your healthy treats and they make her feel so good?

Is it hosting a dinner party for your besties and tending to every detail to make them feel enchanted and cared for?

Is it writing a thoughtful card to your husband telling him how much he means to you?

YOU HAVE THE MAGIC! PLEASE SHARE IT!

PS: If this sparked something for you that you need help noodling through - you can schedule a coaching session and we’ll work on it. Cuz gosh dang it I want us alllllll living fully!

Photo cred: I took that first one at the concert in Cincinnati OH. The last one was taken by my daughter’s bestie Harper.

who's driving your jetta?

Do you wanna hear about my really wacky dream?

It has nothing to do with Dolly. But she IS in a car here, which DOES have to do with my dream. 

And Dolly is on everyone’s mind this week so I had to include her picture. RIP Dolly. What a gal! 

Now onto my dream…

So I was in the passenger seat of my beloved Gretta the Jetta, my car from years ago. I loved that car. It was precious to me. Driving my car was a girl that I knew from college. My sister was in the back seat, along with another friend of mine, Mary. 

We were going to dinner, but our Driver had no idea where that was. I was YELLING at her to stop the car because she didn’t even know what direction we need to be going. WHAT IF WE’RE GOING THE WRONG WAYYYYY!!!???? I was outraged. 

I was fumbling with an iPad, and my phone, and chargers of all kinds, paper maps, a big tote bag full of things at my feet. I was in full-on panic mode. We’re going to be late!

The Driver was reckless. We were on a dark country road and she was speeding. 30 mph over the speed limit, my Navigator Self pointed out.

Then she ran off the road! IN MY JETTA! We went through a yard, side swiped an iron fence, came close to a house. Mary, in the back seat, told her not to slow down or she would get stuck in the boggy grass. She put the peddle to the metal - OMG we were already going SO FAST! - and she maneuvered back onto the road. 

Never stopping. Never slowing down. 

I yelled at her to stop the car - I need to check the damage on my precious Jetta. Slow down! On and on. SCREAMING at her. And when I say screaming, I mean at the top of my lungs IN her face screaming.

All she did was look at me and smile calmly and carry on. I was infuriated.

I couldn’t get my iPad to work so that I could get directions. I pulled out my phone and suddenly my thumbs grew to twice their size and I couldn’t type on the small screen. I was fumbling with everything. 

The driver just kept pleasantly smiling at me. Cool as a summer cucumber. I yelled at her to get her eyes back on the road - UNSAFE! She ignored me and drove on. 

My sister and friend in the back offered to pull up directions on their phones - NO! I shouted. I’ve got it! I’ll figure it out!

It was intense. My palms are sweating typing it. I woke rattled and puzzled about what it meant.

I wrote about it in my morning journal. Usually writing brings me awareness. It didn’t. So I shut my journal and felt done with it. Maybe it was “just a dream”. 

Then I connected with my guides, as I do every morning, I said - “I don’t want to do this alone.” This life. 

I often have to remind myself that I have so much support around me - in both human and spirit form - and I don’t have to do it alone. And in fact it’s better when I don’t try to. 

My mom tells a funny story of little toddler Tracy refusing help and saying: “Let me do it to me self!” I’ve had a lifetime of fighting my fierce independence, and “doing it to me self”, which does not always serve me.

And like a flash of lightning, as I said those words to my guides - “I don’t want to do this alone” - they gave me the instant awareness that the characters in that car WERE DIFFERENT PARTS OF MEEEEEE!

The Driver - that girl in college who seemed charmed. The one who got all the good and cool things, against all odds. Always seemed to be bumbling along happily. Not stressed. Things just fell into her lap and always worked out amazingly.

The Navigator - trying to control everything, freaking out, demanding, fumbling with devises and papers, fearing we’re going the wrong way, unable to find the directions, a tote bag full of all the supplies you’d need for any situation. So prepared. Refusing help. Bossy. Outraged.

Sister in the back seat - calmly offering help. But my frantic Navigator Self refused. “I got it!” But I didn’t. And still I wouldn’t give up trying to control the situation and being angry.

Friend Mary in the back seat - urging the Driver to keep driving through the marshy part so she wouldn’t get stuck - keep going!

My psychology background and training came in handy here for looking at the dream through both a Jungian and Parts Work framework. Jung says our dreams reveal important messages. Parts Work encourages us to look at all of the different parts and traits that make up ourselves - Mama Bear, The Control Freak, The Big Lebowski, The Flower Child. 

There were lots of lessons for me in this dream. I wrote a page about them in my journal. But I think the biggest was to tell that Frantic Navigator self to just simmer down. The part of me who’s driving right now is just fine. She knows how to figure it out. She’s happy. There are helpers to pull up directions and encourage me to keep going.

So how about your parts? 

Who’s in your car? What part of you is driving right now? What part of you is freaking out? What part of you wants to help but you’re refusing?

And how do you navigate all of your parts!? And how do you get the right one in the driver’s seat?

This is the kind of thing I do in coaching! If you’d like help navigating, schedule a coaching session right here. Zoom or in-person in SoBro. You don’t have to do it alone! 

how often do i need pranic healing?

How often should I do pranic healing sessions? I get this question alot.

There are a few things to consider:

• If you have an acute issue - like a kidney infection or a knee injury: There are recommendations that we follow specific to the ailment.

• If you have a chronic issue - like back pain: My recommendation would most likely be once a week, or every other week. At least to start. Depending on your response to treatment, your preferences, and your budget, that could vary.

• If you’re in maintenance mode - you’re feeling good now and don’t want dirty, bad energy to get on top of you and wreck havoc emotionally, or manifest into a physical issue. I’d recommend scheduling 1 -2 times per month.

• If you’re in an emotionally tough season: I recommend scheduling weekly for a month and see how you feel at that point. Take care of yourself and schedule some nurturing care when you’re in a tough spot.

I have one client that has had a standing appointment every other week for 3+ years to clear all that dirty energy gunk so it doesn’t build up and create issues. Think of it as a regular energy shower.

I have another client who is a teacher and schedules a session on her days off.

Another client says she knows she needs a session if she’s feeling “off”, which usually happens at about 4-5 weeks for her.

After travel is also highly recommended. We can gather so much funky energy from all the people and places we encounter when we travel.

Above all: trust yourself. I can make recommendations, but you know yourself and your energy best, so trust that.

You can schedule a session right here!

Image by Ricardo Gomez, from unsplash.com

the thing about clarity

I’m doing some self-development work through the To Be Magnetic program*. It’s brain rewiring through journaling & guided meditations. It’s always been really powerful for me.

This week there was a suggestion that after journaling through the prompts, to put your journal pages into AI and ask it for a summary.

I almost skipped that invitation. Because, well, AI freaks me out. And the rural farming community of my childhood has been literally obliterated to make way for a Meta Data Center. Trees, fields, houses, barns: ALL GONE. Ugh. It feels heavy and shocking and the energy feels evil.

The negative aspects of AI are VERY real for me and in my face. It is deep and painful and personal and makes me think differently about AI than some might.

But despite that, curiosity about what it might reveal won out and I did it. And TBH I do feel some shame about that. Even still. I’m conflicted. But that is another post.

What AI found in my writing was a shock to me. There were a few things that it nailed that I didn’t see.

AI told me that I am not missing confidence, but that I was missing trust. What? I’m usually big on trust. How could this be?!

“Trust that your expression creates clarity—not the other way around. You seem to believe clarity must come first.

Clarity emerges through action, conversation, and experience—not before it.”

WHAT?! I have pointed this out so many times to clients! I KNOOOOOOOW this.

But it was my blind spot in this case.

The fact that I didn’t see it at work in myself was so funny and humbling.

So, my friends, what’s your relationship to clarity?

Do you expect it to come first?

Are you waiting for it before you express, share, act, do?

If you’re struggling with feeling stuck, waiting for clarity, I can help. I mean…I guess AI can too. But it CANNOT replace the human-to-human connection. I stand by that! Again…another post.

It also can’t help us move past insight into action. That’s what human coaching is for!

You can schedule a coaching session here and we’ll figure it out together.

*Note on the To Be Magnetic Program: If you’re interested, use my code “TRACY4120”. You get $54 off and I get $54 for referring you. Win/win. I can also coach you through the program. I have found it helpful to have a human guide.

you've tried everything under the sun

I recently interviewed one of my dear pranic healing regulars. I get really attached to you guys! I just love you! We’ve been working together monthly for a few years now.

Here’s what she shared:

“Before pranic healing there was a heaviness in me. There was something I could not move by myself. 

I've done everything under the sun. I really have. But I still felt like there was a piece missing.

I would always try to explain this to my parents, my friends, my therapist. I feel things so deeply. So personally.

Every book I read, everything I tried, I was like- there's still this missing piece. I would still think - I need something else. I felt that deeply.

I remember going to a chiropractor and thinking this crack is going to solve me. This is going to be friggin' it! This is going to be it! This will fix me. You get to a desperate point. 

Pranic healing moved the needle! It was cathartic. A relief.

It's definitely a necessary thing for me now. It's become part of my wellness routine - to keep me feeling good and steadfast.”

Isn’t that incredible?

If you feel a heaviness.

If you feel like there is a missing piece.

Maybe pranic healing is what will move the needle.

Might as well try it. You’ve tried everything else under the sun, right?

Schedule a zoom or in-person session here

where do you want to be?

The invitation I gave my coaching client was: Paint a picture of where you want to be by the end of 2026. What are your intentions for the next 5 months? Include how you want to feel

He answered that by asking himself these questions in an afternoon coffee shop journaling sesh. They’re brilliant! He said I could share because I think they might help you too!

• What feels unsettled right now?

• What feels good right now/where I want to be?

• What am I moving towards or want to move towards?

• What is the feeling I want?

• What is my intention?

What a great starting point for a mid-year reboot!

This is our coaching roadmap.

You want help creating a roadmap & navigating it? Cool! Let’s do some coaching! I’m like your AAA TripTik!

I loved me a TripTik, didn’t you?!

You can schedule a coaching session right here.

maybe it's not time for action yet

Do you ever wonder why you just can’t make yourself do that thing you wanna do? Even though you really want it? Even though you’re the kind of person who makes things happen.

Well there’s a science to making changes in your life and it starts with a strong foundation - BEFORE you even take action.

But we just want to jump into action right?! I mean, we’re get ‘er done kinda gals.

But that’s not where we should start!

So we “fail”. No such thing as failure, btw. But that’s another topic…

It’s not that you’re lazy. Or that you don’t have enough willpower.

It’s not a personal failing.

You just may have the pieces out of order. Or maybe you’re missing a piece.

That’s what we do in coaching.

I made this graphic about it. And a video explaining it, if you like to listen rather than read.

THIS is what we do in coaching so that you can create the life that you want using strategies that are specific to YOU and YOUR personality. Not your spouse’s or your sister’s.

Your bad habits aren’t a character flaw.

So don’t beat yourself up.

You just might be missing a piece of the process. We’ll figure it out together.

So if you’re wanting to make some changes, but can’t seem to make it happen, schedule a coaching session with me.

You don’t have to figure it out on your own.

nature abhors a vacuum

Let’s talk about intention: I’ve been noodling around this concept that “Nature abhors a vacuum”, originally attributed to Aristotle.

This principle states that nature requires every space to be filled. It suggests that unfilled spaces will always be filled by surrounding material or circumstance.

Doesn’t this feel true in your life!? I mean, we ARE nature, after all so this applies to us.

This is why I’m big on setting intentions/plans/goals with myself and my clients.

That space can be filled with piddling about the house, or just going where the wind takes you. You don’t have to map it out specifically, but setting an intention is the key.

In the absence of that, there is an energetic vacuum and it’s gonna get filled with all sorts of unauthorized junk if you don’t direct the energy.

If you’d like help creating a more intentional life, you can schedule a coaching session here.

anxiety remedy

Here’s a practical quick tip for you:

If a certain situation repeatedly causes you anxiety - like driving on the highway for instance - try this…

When you notice the thoughts rushing in that ramp up the feeling of anxiety, have a sentence on hand that you can repeat: I’m safe. I’m protected. I’m a good driver.

Play around with a sentence that feels true, grounding, and affirming. Do this part before you’re freaking out.

Also, or alternatively: visualize your car (in this example) surrounded by a protective white light. You may want this white light to pulse like a strobe light so that other drivers see it. This light is a forcefield that will protect you - Violet style…from The Incredibles!

Rather than focusing on the intrusive thoughts, focus on building and seeing this force field around you.

It works for me! Play around with it and let me know how it works for you. If you’d like 1:1 help with it, you can schedule a coaching session here!

the social media ambush

Does this ever happen to you:

You’re having a really great summer moment. Loving life. 

But then you pick up your phone. And you click on Instagram. And you scroll….

You know what’s coming, right?

Dang! She’s in FRANCE?!?!

I was just lounging in my backyard under this mighty and magical shade tree reading this delicious book about best friends vacationing on Nantucket and thinking that life couldn’t get any better.

But dang. My life SUCKS! I should be in FRANCE! Not under this stupid oak tree with this dumb book.

Seeing everyone else’s magical summers can feel like we’re not doing enough. Or we should be doing THAT instead of this.

That sucks. Let’s not do that.

I’ve found if I set my own intentions – if I get clear on what IIIII want - then I’m not so vulnerable to the social media emotional ambush.

I can help you do that too - create your OWN magical intentions so that you’re so engaged in your own life, and basking in the glory of it, that you don’t even think about doing the comparison scroll.

I’ll walk you through the process of creating YOUR ideal magical season. Planning AND doing. There is a science to it. The fun kind of science. Not the memorizing the Periodic Table kind of science.

After our coaching sessions you’ll be like: France? Pa-sha. That ain’t no big thang. I’ve got a mighty OAK TREE to read under!

You can sign up for a coaching session and get started here.

amazing pranic healing story

I have an AMAZING pranic healing client story that I can’t wait to share with you! It’s SO GOOD! 

Get a load of this…

All of my pranic healing clients feel measurable improvement in a session. But some of them have truly incredible results. I had one of those yesterday. She was a first-timer.

“I’m a bit of a mess right now” - that’s what she shared when she scheduled our session.

The mid-life overwhelm. You know the kind – your parents’ generation is dying, illness seems all around, work is stressful, your kids are moving out but still in that liminal space where they need you.

“Life is super heavy right now. I’m feeling overwhelmed with the weight of doing all the things at home and at work. I’m swimming in grief and it’s really heavy.”

The heaviness was sitting on her chest.

She hadn’t been able to get a full breath in in a while. “I can’t unlock it. My chest is physically full. I feel like I’m drowning.”

Her throat felt tight and she was even having trouble swallowing.

She had been clenching her hands so much that she couldn’t straighten them.

Before the end of the session she could straighten her hands,

she drank water without thinking,

she was breathing deeply.

She felt lighter and taller. She said she was afraid to stand up because her head might pop right out of the ceiling - haha!

“The weight is gone!”

She literally cried tears of happiness at the end of our session.

And here are some excerpts of the messages she sent me that afternoon:

“I just wanted to say a big THANK YOU!!! I feel so much immediate relief it’s incredible!! I can’t even imagine how much better I’m going feel tomorrow since i already feel so much better!! “

Then that night I got this message:

“Ok this may (or may not) sound crazy but i can see sooooooo much better!!! Like my eyeballs don’t seem foggy - i can actually see!!! i have been having a hard time reading, like my readers weren’t working anymore and now they do!!!!!! Seriously i feel so much better!!!!! I’m so thankful for you and am so glad the universe brought us together!!!!”

And the next morning she sent this:

“Good morning! Oh my goodness I feel physically lighter this morning!!!!  For the last several months, I’ve been waking up and feeling so sore and heavy and it hurts to get out of bed and I walk like i’m wearing a physical weighted suit when i walk to the stairs! This morning I woke up and that sensation was all gone!!! seriously amazing!!! usually by this point in the morning i’m dragging myself around the house trying to get my body to loosen up and actually move, it’s was like a weird tin man feeling. and now - poof it’s gone!”

Isn’t this incredible?

I don’t guarantee what your results will be. There are so many factors to healing.

And I don’t believe that Pranic Healing is a panacea. If it was, we’d all be cured of everything that ails us. Obviously, it’s more complex.

I also believe that different people need different medicines and different healers at different times in our lives. I’m not for everybody all the time.

I also believe that our challenges and suffering are in service to our greater becoming. That our pain, and our path to healing, is necessary.

What I do guarantee, tho, is that you will feel better after our session.

I believe that human connection - and divine connection - is beautiful medicine in and of itself. At the very least, a pranic healing session provides that.

And it may also provide, like for my dear client yesterday, profound relief and transformation.

Whatever the case, you don’t have to suffer alone.

Schedule a session and see what pranic healing will unlock for you.

creating a magical summer

Y’all I am SO excited about this summer! I know summer doesn’t technically start until June 21st with the Summer Solstice, but I’ve got full-on summer vibes going. Especially because the weather around here has been 90 and ridiculously humid.

So let’s talk summer…

A few years ago I was lamenting about how the summers just slip through my fingers. They weren’t special anymore. I just spend most of the summer doing the sale ole same ole and complaining about how bloody hot it is. Bleh.

That bummed me out and I was determined to make that summer different.

I started with what I wanted to FEEL. It was Freedom. I dubbed it “The Summer of Freedom”.

That was actually my 2nd Summer of Freedom - my first being in college after I broke up with my boyfriend. I did that Summer of Freedom very differently, but those are stories for another time.

Back to my 2nd Summer of Freedom, just a few years ago…

Once I tapped into the feeling I wanted to create, I brainstormed a list of what gave me that feeling of freedom.

Then I made sure that I had at least one of those things on my calendar each week. Some were small - like iced tea on the deck, Don Henley on my summer playlist. Some were bigger - like kayaking with Sister, a paddle down the river with James Scott. None were elaborate.

So this photo right here is my Summer 2026 vibe. Don’t judge me because this was a brainstorm list on a painting I did with my 3 & 4yo neighbor girls. They like to come over and paint (which I LOOOOVE). They also like to tell ME what to paint. I saw it on the table and thought - THAT feels like my summer vibe! Rainbows and butterflies and ice cream. Right!? Can you get on board with that? Little kids know what’s up with summer vibes!

So I jotted down my ideas on my little kid painting and plunked it on this small slice of wall that needs a paint job and has an empty nail. We’re not going for perfection here ;-).

I started with what I wanted to feel. This year it’s 4 words: connection, a sense of lightness, engaged (like really getting into summering), creation (wanting and needing some creativity right now).

Then, as you can see, I put those feelings in categories and wrote down ideas of things to do that would give me those feelings. A mix of easy things and little trips that take a bit more coordination. Nothing hard. I don’t want complicated this summer.

If we don’t set an intention - type in our GPS where we wanna go - then we won’t know how to get there or if we even DID get there.

Then summer’s gone. And we wonder where it went. And we wonder - did I have a good summer? IDK. I don’t think so. What makes a good summer anyway?

Not this year sister! Let’s make some summer magic!

I’m opening up 5 spots for 8 weeks of summer coaching. I’ll take you through the process of setting your intention for the summer and then help you ACTUALLY MAKE IT HAPPEN!

Intentionally creating what you want is a science. And a process. And I know how to do it and I can lead you through it. And we’ll have a blast! (I know Mrs Smith, my HS English teacher, is rolling over in her grave about me starting so many sentences with “and”…among other grammatical insults, I’m sure). Back to summer tho…

I’m already having a great summer!

Scott and I started our SASS last weekend - Saturday Afternoon Summer Sandwiches - inspired by reading Indianapolis Monthly Magazine’s 25 best sandwiches in the city. Hot tip: Amore Mio in Clermont! If you’re Italian and you’re making me a sandwich (well anything really) - then I’m gonna eat it! And these Italians do not disappoint. See my handsome husband showing it off below.

I have a few summer playlists on Spotify: Coastal Grandma (that’s a vibe - you know about it? google it), ‘70s Southern California Summer, Summer at the Lake.

I’ve made a few essential oil blends that are bringing me so much joy! Coastal California, pictured below, is my fav.

I’ve got an iced tea blend in the frig.

Day tripped to New Buffalo MI with Ruby and her bestie Harper for Rube’s birthday (pictured below).

Booked an overnight MI trip with Sister!

Got Cardinals tickets! Ruby wants to see an MLB game this summer because that’s part of her summer vibe. She also requested grilling because it feels very summery. That girl knows how to set intentions and make ‘em happen!

I’m off to a roaring start! Wanna join me?!

Comment below and we’ll set it up.

Let’s create a magical summer that makes your Fall 2026 Self say YESSSSS WHATTA SUMMER THAT WAS!

What's an Interstitium & Why Should I care?

Well the New York Times must have heard about the Mind-Body Connection workshop that Ashley Dirks and I are doing next week (May 21st 2026 at 6pm) because they wrote about the fascia and interstitium this week!

You can read the whole article here. I sum it up below and explain how it relates to our workshop. And even if you can’t make our workshop, you’ll wanna read about this.

One of the researchers who is credited with the discovery of the interstititum is Dr. Neil Theise, a liver pathologist from Beth Israel Hospital.

He was also interviewed on The Telepathy Tapes podcast where I guess he felt a little more free to share what might seem a bit too woo-woo to alot of NYT readers. I’ll include some of what he said in that podcast interview here too.

Here we go…

A few years ago Neil and a few others discovered a system in our bodies that they dubbed the interstitium. It’s a network of fluid filled gaps between cells and interwoven through every organ and tissue! They describe it as a communication network highway. It’s a big deal discovery!

They think it may explain how energy healing works - “the physical basis for meridians, chakras, and the subtle systems described by healers for thousands of years.” THAT excites me!

He laughed at himself in telling how he shared this amazing discovery with a leading MD in China, who also practices Traditional Chinese Medicine. That doctor said - DUH (in my version of the conversation he said duh) “We’ve known that for thousands of years.”

The article also mentions the fascia- a connective tissue that wraps around and runs within and between ALL of the internal structures - organs, nerves, bone, muscle, blood vessels.

The fascia and the interstitium have been described as “structural networks in the body that facilitate an energetic intelligence connecting the body’s systems.”

Dr Theise also says that the interstitium may carry not only fluid but information! Which he postulates could explain energy healing and the mind-body connection. He says that with this discovery “the boundary between mind and body becomes more permeable than we imagined.” And by “we”, he meant him. Because duh, I already knew it was permeable. That’s my life’s work. And I bet you knew that too. But good for science! Bravo!

Ok I could go on and on. But that’s enough to make my point today…

What does that science have to do with our Mind-Body workshop?

Glad you asked.

Allow me to make the mind-body connection of which Dr Theise references, as I see it …

We know that a thought - which exists only in the mind - like: This is too much. I can’t handle it. It’s too overwhelming.

Creates an emotion, a feeling: overwhelm, anxiety, fear.

Those feelings create a physical response in your body: grinding your teeth at night, tight shoulders, a headache, a churning tummy.

We have all experienced this right?

That’s the Mind-Body connection.

Like when I developed IBS in grad school and lost 20 pounds in 3 months and had to run to the bathroom immediately after eating anything and then broke up with my boyfriend who I knew was bad for me and was suddenly healed….you know, like that! Mind-body connection.

So a thought (which is not “real”, it’s just in the mind) creates an emotion (simply a vibration, not physical), which creates a physical situation in your body.

That’s the work I’ve been doing for 30+ years.

Now let’s connect that to what my workshop co-host Ashley Dirks does, along with these discoveries about the fascia and interstitium…

One doctor explained that the tighter and more tense you get, the harder it is for your body to communicate through the fascia and interstitium systems. The energy, information, fluid, doesn’t flow.

And this creates a situation.

Our THOUGHTS - the ones that make us tight and tense - create blockages in our body, which can create pain, physical illness, and disease because we have blocked the flow of the system.

THAT is what we’re gonna get into in our workshop next week.

Ashley teaches MyoFascial Release (MFR) classes that help you find the spots in your body where those thoughts and emotions are causing blockages and unblock them! This fascial release in the physical body also allows emotions and stinkin thinkin to release. Because as science is proving, which we already knew from experience, is that the mind, body, and emotions are all connected.

So what can you do about it? Here are some options:

1. Come join our workshop in Indy Thursday May 21st (2026) as we look at the thoughts and stories that are causing us angsty emotions and get on the mat to physically release them.

2. Schedule a coaching session or a pranic healing session with me to dig into how your thoughts & emotions are impacting your physical health. I do those in-person in Indy or on Zoom.

3. Go to an MFR class - for sure Ashley’s if you’re in Indy. If not, I bet there is one in your city.

Waking Up In A Funk

I woke up this morning feeling a little off. Like emotionally… some variety of funk.

So my brain went to work on problem solving why I felt this way - it paraded a series of thoughts through my noggin that might explain why I felt off.

And I bet you can guess that these thoughts were not uplifting thoughts.

Because when you feel a little funk, you aren’t trying to explain it with thoughts like: What a beautiful sunny spring day! I can’t wait to see my clients today! My sweet Ruby May comes home tomorrow!

Nope. My brain was looking for bad thoughts that could explain a bad feeling. My brain was parading what’s not quite right in my world, trying them all on to see if they fit this emotion I was feeling.

I’m not alone in this right? You’ve been there too?

I know from experience that my brain WILL be able to latch onto something displeasing in my world to explain this displeasing feeling. No one has a perfect life - we can all find something displeasing.

And then my brain will really dig into this explanation and chew on it like a dog with a bone. I mean really get into it!

And then this feeling will grow. And then my brain is like: YEAH GIRL! You found the source! What a great problem-solver you are! Let’s really obsess now!

And then those yucky thoughts will further feed that slightly yucky feeling and it will grow and then I’m in a spiral of even worse thoughts and feelings, circling the drain.

That sucks.

So here’s what I did instead:

I asked my guides: (I did this by writing it in my journal) If there is something causing this feeling that I need to tend to, would you please make it obvious because I’m not going to let my brain search for it.

And then I wrote something that uplifted me. It started with “I get to live in this gorgeous house that is so cool…” and that had me feeling so good that I just kept writing.

And that lead me to how amazing my husband is and what a rare gift it is to feel the way I feel about him.

And that lead me into writing about how I get to do my dream job!

It was an upward spiral instead of the one I was in, circling the drain.

In pretty short order I realized that my thoughts and emotions had totally shifted.

Also: my guides DID give me something that I needed to tend to - some mundane human thing that I hate doing that I was procrastinating. It was a direct message I got without having to think about it.

Disclaimer: This is NOT just positive thinking. Not “toxic positivity”, as they say these days. It’s not bypassing the root of a problem. There is nuance in this so if you have questions about it, or you’re feeling skeptical, or saying “yeah, but…” then schedule a coaching session and we can walk through the nuance for you.

This is an example of the mind-body connection. How our thoughts create emotions, or how our emotions create thoughts. It can go both ways.

If that’s an interesting concept to you and you’re in the Indy area, you should come to the Mind-Body Connection workshop I’m doing with fascia expert Ashley Dirks on May 21 (2026)!

We’re going to get into this very formula and how to use it to feel better.

Ashley is going to add another dimension to this equation: where it all sits in your physical body. Because it does. And we’ll get on the mat and use tools to move it all through in a physical way.

We need lots of tools in our toolbox to navigate this human experience.

If you can’t make it to the workshop but want to explore how to shift that funk you find yourself in, you can schedule a coaching session with me either in-person in Indy or on Zoom. You don’t have to sit in the suffering.

The Fascia, thoughts & feelings

My whole career has been an exploration of how the mind, body, emotions, and spirit intertwine. That is the basis of my work. And my endless fascination. 

Several months ago I became really interested in the fascia. There are theories and studies showing that it may be one of the ways energy travels throughout the body, and that emotions get stored there. I could go on and on but that is the basic idea of the fascia. Google it and have fun in that rabbit hole!

I was getting my hair cut several months ago and telling Kim about my fascia fascination and she says - “My next client teaches Myofascial Release (MFR) classes!” Say whaaa!?! 

Isn’t the Universe so cool how it just hands you these things?! And then said client, Ashley Dirks, walks into her appointment early! 

So of course I started going to Ashley’s Myofascial Release (MFR) classes. 

They are amazing and provide so much release and ease in my body, unlike anything I’ve ever tried. We relax on the mat and use various sizes of little hard balls to explore & release areas of tension in our body. 

Some balls are in mesh sacks. And they’re blue. And it’s impossible not to make 12 year old boy jokes in your head - and sometimes out loud ;-). 

Some spots we explore are really uncomfortable and painful. Sometimes people have tears. We got into our hips one time and I was like whooooaaaaa. Ashley explained that’s where we store sadness that we don’t want to process. 

You don’t say…

It was a lightbulb moment for me. 

I know theoretically, and through practicing pranic healing, that we store emotions in our body. And I have taught for years that our thoughts and beliefs lead to certain emotions and we may numb or avoid or store the emotions we don’t like. 

I got that down. 

But the MFR class experiences took it a step further and helped me see another way that the body factored into this formula: 

We have a circumstance. We have thoughts about it. Those might implant as beliefs. We pick up beliefs from others. We choose actions, or inaction, based on those beliefs and feelings. Emotions get generated from those thoughts and beliefs. Some of them are uncomfortable so we numb them, run from them, distract ourselves, stuff them…IN OUR BODY. 

The body keeps the score. 

Eventually we have physical symptoms of all of this energy build up. 

Pranic Healing is one way to move and release those stuck emotions. The coaching I do is another way. MFR is another tool. And I love this tool.

If you’d like help with the spirit-mind-body connection, here are 4 ways to dig into it:

• Schedule a Pranic Healing sesh with me - Zoom or in-person in Indy

• Schedule a Coaching sesh with me - Zoom or in-person in Indy

• If you’re in Indy, check out Ashley’s MFR class at Foundations Studio. If you’re not in Indy, I bet you can find one in your city.

• If you’re reading this before May 21st 2026 - come to my Mind-Body workshop with Ashley! We’ll explore our thoughts and beliefs, how those create emotions, and where those emotions might be stored in our body, and release them, let them flow. 

A crazy story

Do you wanna hear a cool thing? 

Here’s something I have noticed for myself and from doing coaching and energy work with clients: Once you start doing “the work” - whatever that means to you…tackling your limiting beliefs, opening your connection to Spirit, learning new skills, getting unstuck and creating forward momentum…

Once you start that, it’s like dominos. These seemingly crazy things that you could have never in a million years scripted or even imagined, start lining up.

Here’s a super wacky example: 

I’m coaching a woman who lives abroad. She’s been doing great work. We had 2 coaching sessions and then out of nowhere, a relative in the US who she is not close to, had not seen in years, had no idea what path my client was interested in…this relative emailed her and said “Hey - I have a colleague who happens to live in your city (IN ANOTHER COUNTRY!) and she’s cool and interesting and I thought you two might like to meet.

Ummmm…WHAT?!

And it JUST SO HAPPENS that this cool interesting coworker does THE EXACT type of work that my client has recently decided she wants to pursue! 

I speak the truth. Isn’t that nutty!?

So they met for brunch. My client loved her and was so energized and motivated by this meeting. It has created alot of forward momentum for her. 

All she had to do was to work on herself - to identify and tackle her mental and emotional blocks. And then she was an energetic match to magnetize what she wanted & needed.

I’ve seen this happen time and time again.

So if you’re stuck, confused, know you need a shift of some sort, come see me. I’ll help you shift and crazy cool things will start coming your way! You can schedule an in-person session in Indy, or a Zoom session here.