Making real lasting behavior changes is a practice. And The Universe gives us lots of opportunities to practice once we sign up for the course.

Here’s a recent text exchange with a coaching client:

Client: I have a call with a difficult client today. In major “how do I want to show up for this” mode. 🤪

Me: So how DO you wanna show up? Don’t overthink it.

Client: You clearly don’t know who you’re talking to…(T note: haha! I attract over-thinkers. Wonder why?! ;-))

Me: Haha! Maybe grounded, anchored, not being tossed about with emotion? Matter-o-fact? Just spit ballin here.

Client: I’d say that’s pretty accurate. Just focus on what the business need is. Egotistical asses on the other screen doesn’t impact who I am at all. And if those interactions become more what my professional life will look like, I have to manage that or I’ll go nuts. A good time to practice.

Yesssssssss 👏🏼 could not have said it better myself. <end of text exchange>

The circumstance (egotistical ass on your screen) does not define your value, or your identity. YOU define that. Realizing that is SO EMPOWERING!

And, without changing the circumstance (because we can’t make other people not be an ass) how do you want to intentionally manage yourself? How do you want to show up?

This client is now aware that he has choice in this situation!

I love to help people realize this.

It’s not always about changing the circumstance. Sometimes it is. But sometimes it’s about managing our internal world…our thoughts and feelings about the circumstance.

Realizing that and practicing it will change your life.

If you’d like to dig into that with me, schedule a coaching session here.